I could hurt someone like me out of spite or jealousy

So you may know that my best buddy, Diane, is getting married. The big day is the Saturday after Thanksgiving. (Another Thanksgiving wedding, Liz!)

Her shower is going to be September 13 (she knows...I'm not giving away any surprises), but was originally going to be September 20 until she realized that a good deal of her friends had an event down the shore that weekend. Since she wanted them to come to her shower, but not miss their annual weekend of fun for her, she changed the date to accommodate them.

When Diane mentioned how she arrived at the date to another girl we're friends with, the girl replied something to the effect of "It wouldn't really matter if they couldn't make it...this isn't your sort of thing anyway."

While Diane is not a typical bride, getting all caught up in every minute detail of her wedding, this girl's remark was hard for her to hear. No, Diane is not an overly-sentimental person. She's very matter-of-fact about a lot of things. However, she is excited to marry Mark and wants to enjoy all aspects of this occasion with her good friends and family around her.

The girl who played down the importance of Diane's shower, Diane and I believe, did it because she's had a run of failed relationships and is having a difficult time being happy for Diane right now.

While we all deserve to be loved, sometimes we just don't ever find someone who wants to accept the job. Regardless, negating someone else's happiness is a pretty petty way of making ones self feel better about ones own emotional emptiness. I've never quite gotten that whole "misery loves company" thing. No one's life is any more perfect than the next persons...all our lives have ups and downs. It's just a question of holding it together until the next "up".

(I think I should get points for using lyrics from the same song two days in a row.)